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Stir Fried Facts #3 - While In China......

The following is a description of the procedure for completion of the adoption in China. It is taken from our agency's web page.........

Bethany Christian Services began its China program in 1994. All adoptions from China are coordinated by the China Center for Adoption Affairs (CCAA) in Beijing. Over 100 orphanages throughout China send referrals of children available for international adoption to CCAA, who matches the child with the waiting family. Agencies are not able to influence the match. Families typically travel with other families 6-8 weeks after the referral to complete the adoption process. Bethany helps to make all travel arrangements. The stay in China is usually 12-14 days. Families have an option of first traveling to Beijing for a two-day tour of the city and the Great Wall. From Beijing, families usually fly directly to the capital of the province in which their child is located, usually staying 5-6 days to complete the adoption proceedings. From there, all families must fly to Guangzhou, In South China, for a 2-3 day stay while the U.S. Consulate processes the child's immigrant visa. Our China consultant and/or another local interpreter will guide and assist families throughout their stay in China.Our China consultant is an attorney who has been working with Bethany since the beginning of the program. She is a native of Shanghai and has previously lived in the States for over ten years. She currently resides in Shanghai.

China's Answer to the Zamboni

Chinese Street Sweeper

My 2 Favorite GIrls

Here is my favorite pic of my 2 girls - Be & Diva. I have copies of this on my locker, at my workstation, in my calendar and at my computer. It just has a lot of love in it.

Getting Support While Waiting for Placement

Lots of support is out there for those of us who are waiting for the placement of a child. This past Monday, Be and I met with a local group of about 30 couples and singles who are in the 'waiting room'. Several had just received notification of placement and were walking on the ceiling. Their trip to China would be scheduled in the next 6 weeks. The couple at our table had just started the process of adoption and was scheduled for their home study the following evening. And then ..... there were the folks just like us who were waiting to hear something ... anything ... about placement of their child.

A couple had returned from China about 6 months ago with their new daughter and spoke of some of the transitions, both on the part of the new arrival as well as by their biological daughter. After 6 months, it appeared that cultures had blended together and there was balance to their family life.

We will most probably upgrade this site allowing room for links to sites we have found useful in our journey.

Happy Mothers In Waiting Day

Sunday morning, May 14, Mother's Day, found us at Disney's Animal Kingdom. After 20 years at US Airways, I was able to get a regularly scheduled weekend day off. So we decided to take in the attraction this day because 'everyone will be celebrating with mom and crowds will be down.' ---- WRONG ---- The joint ws jumpin' with mothers of every shape, size, age and ethnicity. It was a regular mom fest at the Animal Kingdom. What drove so many of them out here so early in the morning? Are they nuts like us? Even when we got out of the truck, it started. A mother from New York was the first one to greet us as she ejected herself from the car next to us. "So, you 2 get to come out here by yourselves and I have to put up with all these kids? Happy Mother's Day!" she said as she turned around and stuck her posterior in our direction while picking up 3 packs of cigarettes she dropped. "Charming" I thought.

After waiting for a security guard (a Nazi wannabe) to give a cursory glance at the contents of Be's purse, we made it through the front entrance gate. And there they were ---- swarms of mothers ------ wearing outfits that should only be worn in the privacy of their own homes (do I REALLY need to see THAT much of her?) ----- yelling at their children, demanding the attention of everyone else coming through the gate and blocking the narrowing path because 'we have to have a family meeting'. Then, it dawned on me. When Joanna (we decided on Joanna for our China doll's name) becomes part of our family, we can become those very people! Only we can make a game out if it ----- something like "Revenge of the Tourists". It could be very entertaining to observe those around us as we stop in the middle of the walkway while pushing the stroller, blocking the path. We could walk 3 across and gawk and maybe point in different directions - and then get in an argument because "I TOLD you it was the other way."

Wait! Fantasyland is in another park! We still have to make our way through all these Griswolds and ride Expedition Everest! (pic is at the top of the page - I still haven't figured out how to upload the pictures in the middle of the text, so they're all at the top. Perhaps if I pay for the upgraded version of this blog, it will have that feature.) Great ride! We figure we'd better get it all in now, before Joanna comes as thrill rides will be few and far between for a while.

So, we left the park at about noon - they were actually GIVING out carnations to the mothers. I thought they'd want at least 7 bucks for them. On the way back, we swung by Sea World and viewed the new Shamu show "Believe". We had seen one of the rehearsals a few weeks back and wanted to see the finished product. Fine show.

Too much fun for one Mothers In Waiting Day!

Happy Mother's Day to all - even to the one on the parking lot from New York who mooned us in broad daylight.

Translation, Please?

Can't wait to ask for directions when we finally get to go to China!

Stir Fried Facts #2 - The Lifebook

What is a lifebook? 1) It is collection of memories of your child's journey into your family. 2) It is a great way to keep busy during your wait and have others be involved in the process. Why not ask friends and family members to participate by making a page in the book for your child? This way it keeps them involved in the process and helps show the child how much they were loved and anticipated! 3) It may become your child's most coveted possession... A lifebook basically is a scrapbook (photo album, journal, or collage) documenting your child's journey to your family through adoption. A lifebook can be many different things and no two are the same! It can capture your child's life prior to the adoption, include copies of adoption paperwork, journal entries from the adoptive parent(s), photos of your travel, cultural information, messages from siblings and family members, a list of "firsts," and a lot more. Every child has curiosities as to where they came from. Regardless of how the child joined your family, it's their story! A lifebook can help adopted children understand their life story and how they fit into the family.

Stir Fried Facts #1 - The Referral

Periodically, we receive info from our agency's home office regarding our adoption from China. The items may help other adoptive families so we are including some in our blog ... happy reading ... Don & Be

Q: What is a "referral" and what is the process? A: A referral is the much anticipated answer to all of our prayers. It is the matching of an orphaned child with their forever family. Once your dossier is received and LID ("logged-in") at CCAA (China Center of Adoption Affairs), it gets translated. The dossier is then placed in the holding area. When it is time, the referral is made by matching families' dossiers with children's paperwork. God's Plan for your family is already in the works! The "referral" itself is the child's information on paper. What's next? Note: Each branch may operate slightly differently in order to better serve the needs of their families. Depending on your branch office/social worker, your referral process may vary slightly from the process below. Please check with your social worker as to "what to expect." The rererral process: When a referral arrives at Bethany-International from CCAA, it is a celebration of joy! The referral typically arrives among a group of referrals for Bethany families across the U.S. whom all share the same LID (log-in date) or multiple LID's. 1. International sends an email to all the branches and social workers whose families are in this "batch of referrals." We notify them with your family name, the child's given name, gender, given date of birth, and the orphanage & province your child calls home. You then get "the call".... we hope you are ready!!! :o) 2. We review the paperwork and the referral is overnighted to your local branch office/social worker. You will then schedule a time in the next day or so to meet with your social worker to review the referral and sign the acceptance documents!!! 3. The original referral documents are yours to keep. The acceptance documents are then overnighted back to Bethany-International. 4. Once Bethany-International has received all of the families acceptance documents, they are forwarded back to CCAA. This prompts the preparation process for travel invitations and then travel. The referral presentation: When you meet with your social worker to meet your child "on paper," please bring the following: 1) The name(s) you have picked out. Your child's new given name will officially be written on the acceptance document at this time. 2) A check for $xxx.00 written to "Bethany Christian Services" for the acceptance fee (China Consultant Fee). If you are accepting a Child of Promise, this fee is reduced to $xxx. 3) A list of any significant changes that have occurred in your household since the home study has been approved. These changes may include but are not limited to; new employer, new job, decrease in annual income, criminal, health, moved to a new home, additional persons in the home, etc... your social worker will also ensure that your fingerprints will be valid for travel. *Tip: In preparation for your referral and travel, please check your I-171H for the expiration date of your fingerprints. This date is located at the bottom of your I-171H form. Fingerprints are valid for 15 months out from the date you were printed. These prints must be valid through your travel dates! With lengthening referral and travel timeframes, most families are needing to be re-fingerprinted. Please check with your social worker for specifics. The referral USUALLY consists of: 1) 1-3 original, color photos; these photos may be current or within a few months. 2) The English translation of your child's Chinese name. 3) Your child's alleged abandonment site & story (if available). 4) Your child's height, weight, and approximate date of birth. Please remember that these children are abandoned and therefore approximate dates of birth of given based on an admittance medical exam. 5) Any and all medical information & social history since the child came under orphanage care (including eating/sleeping schedules, personality, etc...). Some referrals contain less, some contain more information. Usually within a few weeks prior to travel, we receive updated measurements of the child. Not all families receive updates. Please remember that we cannot guarantee that the measurements are 100% accurate. Just like here in the U.S. when your baby is taken to the pediatrician, there are many factors that influence the measurements... two nurses can measure the same baby and come up with different measurements. Some factors that may influence discrepancies in measurements are: -The child's weight may be altered if she/he is pre or post a bowel movement. -The child's weight may be altered depending on how many layers of clothes she/he has on. -The child's height may be altered if she/he cannot lay completely still or flat for the measurement. -Different medical professional may measure slightly differently. *Tip: Have a pediatrician ready to review the referral. We do not require you to seek a medical review, but if there are questions or concerns, we do recommend having a medical consultation with a ready physician. In addition to the actual referral information, you will also receive a "clear envelope" at the time of referral. This envelope contains the documents you will hand carry to China with you for the adoption. It also contains a "Post Referral Travel Packet." In the PRTP, you will find the visa application forms that each person traveling will need to complete and send for right away. There are also some other travel tips you may enjoy. Please read this PRTP thoroughly. You may have also heard of the "brown envelope." Some families receive the "brown envelope" while others never do. There is no rhyme or reason to the randomness of the "brown envelope." The "brown envelope" is generated from the U.S. Consulate in Guangzhou, China and contains embassy documents. If you do not receive the brown envelope prior to receiving your referral, please notify your social worker. She/he will provide you with the contents, no worries :o) We hope that this information helps prepare you for your referral. For those of you awaiting the referral of your precious child... please use this opportunity to read adoption books, journal, build an adoption website, attend the education & preparation your branch offers, connect with other adoptive families, and scrapbook/lifebook your child's adoption story. Please pray for the BirthMother who has just chosen Life. We are unaware of her experiences and pray that she is safe and loved. She too, is praying that the child finds a good family to provide for all the needs that she cannot. Please pray for the children... that they may be found quickly, be cared for and loved. Imagine... around the same time that you are recieving your LID, your child may be entering the world...

From the Archives ... "Adoption? Why Now?"

Originally posted in August 2005, we moved this item to the top of the blog for new visitors who may not be able to dig down into the archives to read our story......

Don here............For the past 20 years, Be and I have had the world at our disposal with my airline job. We've climbed the volcanos and did the scuba thing in some pretty exotic locales. We essentially had our retirement early on in life. We are both fortunate for this luxury when we 'had it in us' to enjoy the benefits............I remember the day about 6 years ago ..... Be and I were standing on the pier at Daytona Beach and as we looked out over the ocean, we turned to each other and began to reflect on all we had done and what the future could possibly hold for us. We were thankful to God for His remarkable goodness to us, but the element of children had not been in the mix. The topic of adoption came up, but it was left for discussion and prayer in the future. Then it hit .............My mom died in December 2000 leaving behind my dad who never had to function independently (he relied on mom for EVERYTHING). During mom's long illness (congestive heart failure) prior to her 'graduation' to be with God, there were many flights up and down the east coast (thank the Lord for free flight benefits) to attend to her needs and to be with her just in case God called her home. After her passing, (Be and I were both with her as she walked into eternity) there were the flights up and down the east coast to ensure that dad was OK. In May of 2003, dad came to live with us, occupying the spare room on our first floor. He had trouble walking (I tell him that he has an allergy to gravity - he doesn't find it as funny as I do) since 1995 (even though he continued to drive -oy!) and as he continued to deteriorate, it was obvious he could not be left alone while Be and I were at work. ........... During his residence with us, Be's cancer was diagnosed and the mastectomy with subsequent surgeries and reconstruction left even less time for dad. He moved into Madison House Assisted Living Center about 1 mile from our house. What a gift! We can walk the dog over there to visit and we have no worries about his care. In addition, Be is cancer free and our lives began to resemble something normal....... cut to March, 2005 ...........We are on the road to Lakeland, FL (about 60 miles from Orlando) ........ we are in bumper-to-bumper traffic due to construction (it looks like the road to Baghdad Airport) .... fortunately, it's late March and the weather allowed us to roll down the windows and enjoy a cool evening for a change..... we have been basking in our freedom from the worries of the past several years ....... I'm 30 pounds fatter and Be looks like a million bucks ...... she's driving as I read to her from Max Lucado's "Come Thirsty" ..... he refers to Ephesians 1:4-5 ..... "Before the world was made, He chose us, chose us in Christ, that we should become His adopted sons and daughters through Jesus Christ......." .... the scene on the Daytona Beach pier flashed on my mind's monitor ...... I shot a look at Be ....... I think it hit her at the same time ........ and we drove and read on. We were in high gear for the Steven Curtis Chapman concert in Lakeland. We even left early to to allow for the traffic that had now come to a complete stop ("free parking on I-4") ..... but, we began to move and arrived in Lakeland about 2 hours before concert time. We sat back and had a great steak dinner (OK - Be had salad - I had steak) and parked our car in a remote area so we could escape the glut of traffic leaving the venue at the end of the event. "Casting Crowns" opened the show followed by Chris Tomlin and ending with SCC. Toward the end of the evening, SCC offered a rather lengthy video presention on adoption. It hit me. It hit Be. We were no sooner out of our seats (conviction by Lucado, Paul -of Ephesians fame- and Chapman in about a 3 hour time span) than were talking about how to begin the adoption process........ that weekend, we began the internet search on agencies......the following week, one of our best friends asked "Hey! Have y'all ever thought about adoption?" ........ "Well, as a matter of fact" .......... we decided on Bethany Christian Services (65 years experience with placing kids) and we are now in month 13 of the process. We liked their philosophy, initial presentation, encounters with the staff and overall environment of the organization.More ramblings/reflections/prayer needs/updates/parsley/sage/rosemary/thyme as the process continues ........ Thank you for making it to the end ......... God Bless ......... Don

China's Lost Girls

Many adoptive families are in search of tools to help educate their extended families, co-workers, churches, children, etc. about a China adoption. The link (which can be cut & pasted into your browser) will connect you to the National Geographic webpage featuring a DVD called "China's Lost Girls." The DVD is approximately 45 minutes long and provides a brief overview of the history of the "one child policy" and focuses on the journey of a China international adoption. It is also available from Netflix and the Orange County Library. The DVD is hosted by Lisa Ling. Enjoy!

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Be and I watched this DVD several nights ago and found it balanced and informative. It gave us an idea as to what to expect when we pick up little Joanna. I (Don) was a bit disturbed at the manner of presentation of the child to the adoptive parents. Apparently, all those adopting are put in one room where the children are paraded in with orphanage workers and given over to the parents in the group. The room was filled with confusion and took on an almost circuslike character. The poor kids appeared terrified for the most part. I would have preferred a more private first encounter with the child. Hopefully, this was for the benefit of playing it up for the camera and production team filming the event for the purpose of 'good TV.'

Visa Info Received from The American Consulate In Guangzhou, China

Today, we received "The Big Brown Envelope" from the American Consulate General in Guangzhou, China. It's no real big deal, but I'm short on postings during this long waiting period, so ANYTHING is something. Essentially, it is confirmation that the Chinese acknowledge that the US government has approved our intention to adopt an orphan overseas. It also contains all of the yaddah related to securing a visa. The Consulate has created a separate department which places a high priority on adoption cases due to the number of orphans (about 6,000 a year) leaving China for the US. So, now we have another small pile of paperwork to be stamped, notarized, signed, sealed, delivered, I'm yours. Then WE bring the package with us to China when we are placed with our child. I'll try to keep this blog as interesting as possible, but I'm really pushing it with this posting.........

Let's Talk Paperwork

The following is a rundown of the amount of documentation (and $$$$$ - Don's dad, Albert, has donated $10,000 to the adoption process - we are most grateful) that went into the first stage of our adoption journey. I found it while surfing.........


The Adoption Homestudy
By Roberta Rosenberg
Put your fear aside and warm up your photocopier.. you're in for an interesting, sometimes frustrating ride.
Some people call it hell. (Perhaps that's an exaggeration. Perhaps not.) But you're now in the thick of the adoption process. With a little work, persistence, and a sense of humor, this can actually be a time of thoughtful exploration between you and your spouse, if married, and your desires and expectations as adoptive parents.
What is an Adoption Homestudy Anyway?
So you've selected your agency. You've filled out the initial application and paid the initial fee. At this point, you'll most likely have had your first post-introductory interview. Now the real work begins.
To adopt internationally, you must have an approved homestudy. Your agency will assign a social worker to you who will work with you during the process. The homestudy consists of gathering specific documents (see below)... interviews with you, your spouse, and any children living in the home... in-person or telephone interviews with your references... and a home visit or two.
The long and short of it? Your social worker, working on behalf of your agency and the children it represents, wants to know only one thing -- are you going to be good, capable parents? The good news is that most of us do pass the ultimate test. So hang in there and pace yourselves.
Let's talk PAPERWORK!
During your initial interview with the agency or at your first meeting with your social workers, you'll also receive a large, hefty packet of forms that need to be filled out: personal and financial information disclosures, fingerprint cards, INS forms, and lots more. Don't be alarmed. You can do it.
Your Documentation List
Every state has different document requirements so your actual list may look different than the one below. You may need originals or certified copies rather than simple photocopies. The number of copies per document required may also vary. But, for the most part, it will look something like this:
PERSONAL INFORMATION
Adoption decree(s) on children already living in the home
Birth certificates for spouses and children already living in the home
Marriage license
Divorce decree(s), if applicable
FINANCIAL INFORMATION
Employment verification by letter and/or current paystub
Income verification, usually W2s or income tax forms
Proof of life insurance
Proof of health insurance
Statement of current assets, including savings accounts, money market funds, mutual funds, stocks, etc.
Proof of mortgage or rent payment
Proof of good health, usually a medical exam is required
MISCELLANEOUS
State-mandated fingerprint clearances
Written approval of public health inspection
Written approval of fire safety inspection
Photos of the couple, any children, and front of the home
Copy of previous homestudy, if applicable
Written personal references
FORMS YOU MAY RECEIVE AT YOUR FIRST POST-APPLICATION MEETING
State-Mandated Criminal Clearances
Police Clearance
Child Abuse Clearance
Motor Vehicle Driving Records
Many of these forms will require signature verification by a notary public. Your bank can usually provide this service at no charge to its customers. (You're going to get to know the notary really well!)
Are we having fun yet? Wait! There's more...
Meet the INS I-600A Form
At your initial meeting you're also most likely going to receive several forms required by the Immigration and Naturalization Service (INS). One is a blue I-600. Don't worry about that one right now. The other is far more important at this stage in the process:
I-600A - Application for Advance Processing of Orphan Petition
This salmon-colored form gets the ball rolling well in advance of completing your homestudy and receiving an assignment of a child. Decide on who will be the "Prospective Petitioner" and continue to use the same person on all INS documents. Can be husband or wife.
Want to save time? You can now download the I600A and I600 forms right from the INS website. No fuss, no muss, no waiting! (Roberta's note: some INS offices have been kicking back perfectly fine forms because they were printed on white paper. Save yourself a hassle - make sure you print the I600A on salmon pink paper and the I600 on light blue paper.)
Here are the documents you'll need to accompany your I-600A application:
Two sets of fingerprints from each prospective adoptive parent and any adults over age 18 living in the household. See below for complete info.
Proof of US citizenship of the Prospective Petitioner (I'd include a copy of the spouse's information, too) -- birth certificate, naturalization certificate or valid US passport. Photocopies okay.
A marriage certificate. (Photocopy okay.)
Divorce decree or death certificate if previously married (Photocopies okay.)
Certified check (plus fingerprinting fees for each adult over 18 living in the household), payable to the Immigration and Naturalization Service.



HINT : Rules change constantly. Always check with your agency regarding the latest INS and other governmental information.
HINT: Send your completed application by traceable means, certified mail with return receipt requested, UPS or Fed-Ex. I like the two latter choices because you can track their arrival dates yourself online.
HINT: Get this form and its attachments completed without delay. It takes 60-90 days for this application to process without any problems. Imagine how long it takes when you run into a snag. Get it done now and save yourself a lot of headaches.
INS Fingerprint Rules Get the latest information directly from the INS site. Read carefully and speak with your agency for any clarification. You will need Special Instructions for Form I-600 "Immigrant Petition for Orphan (Adoption)" and Form I-600A "Advance Processing; Immigrant Petition for Orphan (Adoption)."
INS now accepts walk-in traffic, but... each office is going to have its own rules about when and how. Call ahead (or ask your agency) the best days and times to go to your regional INS office for fingerprinting and in-person I600A application processing. Remember to bring a certified check or money order with you for the full fees amount, application and fingerprinting.
Exception: Applicants and petitioners residing abroad who are fingerprinted at a United States consular or military installation abroad do not need to be fingerprinted by the INS and are exempt from the $75 fingerprint fee. These applicants and petitioners must file their completed card at the time their application or petition is filed.
The Homestudy Interviews
Your state and/or agency may have different requirements, but we had one joint interview, one individual interview each, and one home visit with our social worker. I found it to be a somewhat lengthy, but interesting experience. (If you like to talk about yourself, you'll probably have an easier time than someone who tends to be uncomfortable talking about personal matters.)
Generally, you'll be asked about your childhood, your relationship -- past and present -- with parents and siblings, your school days, and previous marriages (if any). You'll be asked about the health and status of your current marriage, your attitudes about parenting, and corporal punishment.
You'll also be asked about the kind of child you're willing to consider. Are you open to either boy or girl? Some agencies prefer you not have a choice, especially since the majority of families looking to adopt internationally prefer girls. Will you consider a baby born before 38 weeks gestation and/or low birth weight? What is your preferable age range? Will you consider a child with physical, emotional or developmental special needs? If so, what can you comfortably handle, what not?
Having preferences doesn't make you a bad person. Your agency wants you to be upfront and honest with them. But the more flexible you are, the faster you're more likely get a referral.
Writing Your Autobiographies
Scared yet? In keeping with the tone of your initial interviews, here's your chance to really express yourselves on a lot of personal topics. Your social worker will probably give you an outline to follow. Our outline read something like this:
Your Birthfamily
Describe your parents, siblings, and your childhood home. Your parents as a couple? Areas of agreement and disagreement? Ways your parenting style is/isn't similar to your own parents?
Growing Up
Describe your feelings about school life, favorite subjects, friends, etc. Teen issues? Religious orientation? Dating?
Courtship & Marriage
Describe how you and your spouse met, courted and married. Relationships with inlaws? Mutual interests? Areas of strength and disagreement? (Reasons why previous marriage(s) didn't succeed?)
Children
If you have them: describe your children, their personalities, and their feelings about adopting a sibling.
If you don't: describe your experiences with children
For both: what is your philosophy about childrearing, discipline, and punishment.
Adoption
Describe your reasons for adopting. How will the child fit into your family? Childcare issues? Cultural issues and concerns?
Employment
Describe your job. How do you feel about your work? Satisfactions and annoyances?
Community
Describe your house and your community. Describe your community involvements.
General
Strongest influences in your life? Greatest disappointments and achievements?
Don't like to write? Get over it. Besides, you won't be judged on how you write, just what you have to say. My husband's was five typed pages. Mine was 10.
I'd say that if you can truthfully say what needs to be said in 3-5 pages, you'll be fine. Worse comes to worse? Dictate it into a tape recorder and have someone transcribe it for you later.
Choosing Your Personal References
So who is going to say, in print and in person, how wonderful you are, singly and together? For the most part, those you ask will be incredibly honored.
But do start thinking about it now. Your social worker will ask for a few references for each of you. (Generally a family member isn't eligible for this honor.) Have a few good friends who've known you a long time? Good. Your priest/rabbi/pastor is also a good choice.
Try to include at least one reference who knows you as a couple. And if you already have children, you might ask if one of their teachers might offer a reference, as well. (My husband and I did this. My feeling was the best way to gauge our effectiveness as parents was to ask someone who has gotten to know our child well for many years.)
All the references you choose will be asked for a written reference. One or two of these references may be called for a more in-depth interview, or your social worker may want to meet a reference in person. So think about who'd be willing to go that extra mile.
Here are some of my personal recommendations for the homestudy process:




HINT: Be honest! A lot of information will be unearthed in your background checks, so make sure you're forthcoming about anything in your background that could seem even remotely dicey or problematic.
HINT: This isn't therapy. So be candid while keeping your written and spoken remarks ontrack with your goal of showing yourselves to be capable, loving parents. Also, too, if you have children in the home, your social worker will want to speak with them. It's a good idea to start talking with your children about adoption prior to the social worker's visit.
HINT: Don't kill yourselves cleaning for the home visit. What your social worker wants to see is a safe, relatively clean home with enough room to accommodate a child. You don't have to have the baby's room ready either. (And no one is going to look in your closets or white glove the top of your refrigerator.)
HINT: Your social worker wants to approve you! So give her/him what s/he needs on a timely basis. Get the documents in quickly. Get what needs to be notarized, notarized, etc. Make appointments and keep them. Sit down and get those autobiographies written.
Once your homestudy is approved, your agency will forward it to the INS to be included with your I-600A application. Upon completion of its review, the INS will then send you a notice stating your I-600A application has been approved. You can then fax or mail a copy of it to your agency to be added to your file. You keep the original.
Homestudy times vary widely. They can take as little as 30 days or as long as six months (our homestudy took three months from start to finish.) Remember, it's up to you to keep things moving along.
© 2001 R. Rosenberg. All rights reserved worldwide.

Warming Up to New Parents

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Chinese Baby Ultrasound

In adoption circles, you will probably be asked "When was your 'log-in' date?" It's an important date because wait times for China are now lasting 9 - 10 months from log-in. We were informed by our case worker that our log-in date was March 24 - so we are now officially pregnant. Don is showing more than Be and we are both relieved that the first trail of paperwork is over. We are thankful that our adoption agency, Bethany Christian Services, has a fine working relationship with the Chinese Adoption Office and we look forward to our encounters with them throughout this next phase. Thank you for following us in this journey.

So......What Do You Do When You're Waiting For A Referral????

It'll be many months now until we hear word about the referral of our child. We still have not been informed that our dossier was logged in at the China Center for Adoption. It was sent on March 8, so hopefully we'll know soon. In the meantime, what does one do when waiting for the referral?

We joined a group of Central Florida Parents of Children from China. Our first event with the group was a Chinese New Year's Celebration at the Crazy Buffet in Altamonte Springs. The place was swarming with little Chinese girls and we met some families who have gone through the adoption process. One family lives in our area and they have just returned with their second daughter from China. They published a blog site and we followed them every step of the way, even while they were in China for the required 2 week period. It was encouraging to live through the process with them.

We rented an old film starring Ingrid Bergman called 'The Inn of the Sixth Happiness".

Based on the true story of Gladys Aylward, a British maid who became a missionary in China. As the hostile Chinese begin to trust her -- and even a powerful mandarin converts to Christianity -- there is one more difficult task for her to accomplish: to guide 100 children through enemy territory and into safety during the Chinese-Japanese war.
Filmed in 1958, it reminded me of "The Sound of Music" - only in China ---- and with unusual music.

We also went to a few 'date movies' - "8 Below", "The Shaggy Dog", and "Chicken Little" just to rehearse for the real thing when it happens. Maybe we should take a few kids with us next time.

We'll post the dossier 'log in' as soon as we have word. Then, we are told, the average wait is 9 - 10 months. Thanks for keeping up with us on our journey.

Slow Boat to China

Not many posts lately, eh? That's because were now in the LONG waiting period of getting a referral - but first, the dossier has to be logged in China. The good news is - it's on it's way!!!!!! ....and hopefully not on the proverbial "slow boat".
Our social worker called today to tell us the latest news. We're encouraged.......

Still Waiting ...... and really getting silly.......

A little turtle begins to climb a tree slowly.
After long hours of effort, he reaches the top branches of the tree.
He jumps into the air waving his front legs, until he crashes heavily into the ground with a hard knock on his shell.
After recovering his consciousness, he starts to climb the tree again, jumps again, and knocks the ground heavily again.
The little turtle persisted again and again while a couple of birds sitting at the edge of a branch, watched the turtle with pain.
Suddenly the female bird says to the male, "Dear, I think it's time to tell our little turtle he is adopted."

Adoption is Patience