Annaliese's First Christmas

Our Grand-Niece, Annaliese (Don's nephew's daughter) celebrated her first Christmas. She was born last June and Don will probably make a trip to North Carolina to visit our newest family member sometime in January or February.

Have Yourself A Merry Diva Christmas

If our dog, Diva, had been living in Bethlehem at the right time, she would have been there with the rest of the animals, praising the newborn King. Merry Christmas

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The second image is a painting of the Nativity by Chinese artist Yu Jia-de.

The Power of Words - from our agency.....

The Power of WordsThe POWER of WordsOur Words reflect our values. They wound or heal, alienate or educate.The words we use reveal as much about us and our values as they do about the situations that we are trying to describe. Our views, experiences, biases, and assumptions are intrinsically woven into the words we use to communicate every day. The language of adoption is full of expressions we have “always heard” and all too often use. These expressions shape the perceptions of both the people who use them and the people who hear them. They convey our values and biases, and they can encourage or hinder communication.The importance of being aware of the values that our words convey is not confined to the language of adoption. It can be as simple as deciding whether to use the word “problem” or “challenge” when it comes to describing a child’s behavior. A disagreement can be described as a difference of opinion or an argument. The subtle nuances between the words we choose and those we do not can elicit profoundly different responses from the listener because the listener hears through the filter of his or her own experience and emotion.So it is with adoption. A simple choice of words can reveal our views and communicate a great deal to a listener. We encourage social workers, adoptive parents, birthparents, board members, volunteers, and supporters to use language that accurately reflects the reality of adoption.
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Rather than...
real parent(s)..................................birthparent(s), birthmother(s), birthfather(s)
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natural parent(s)............................biological parent(s)
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unwed mother.................................single parent
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real child..........................................birthchild
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Illegitimate child.............................child of unmarried parents
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Put up for adoption........................Make an adoption plan
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Give up for adoption......................Choose adoption
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Is adopted.......................................Was adopted
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Keep a child....................................Parent a child
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Hard to place child........................Child with special placement needs
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Unwanted pregnancy...................Unplanned, unintended, or untimely pregnancy
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Foreign adoption...........................International adoption

Creative Things to Do While in the Waiting Room - Take Your 94 Year Old Father to EPCOT

Every year we attend the Disney Christmas Candlelight Processional but this year, dad came along. It seems we choose the coldest day each year. 3 times each night, in the midst of all the magic, Disneys allows it's guests to get away and set their eyes and ears on the real reason for the season.

Xie-Xie

"Xie xie" (pronounced: Sheay-sheay)

Did you know that "xie xie" means "thanks" in Mandarin-Chinese?

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We are trying to keep the schedule full this Christmas to distract us from the absence of Joanna in our home this season. We had hoped that she would have arrived by now .... the day after Christmas last year, we went out and bought a truck load of Christmas lights and ychotchkes to celebrate. We'll leave them in the attic, buy some more and haul them out next year.

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We take comfort in knowing that God is soverign in this whole adoption process. The time for Joanna's arrival was determined ...... who knows when ..... so in the meantime, we are singing in 2 musicals in our church, taking Don's 94 year old dad out and about as much as possible and attending as many holiday functions as the calendar can hold ...... we also have the opportunity to step back and say xie - xie for all we have learned, adapted to, experienced and suffered through in the Waiting Room ......

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"Xie xie ni" (pronounced: Sheay-sheay nee)This is the more formal way to say "thank you" in Mandarin-Chinese.

The Mandarin language is the most commonly used form of Chinese in China and around the world. The second most commonly used Chinese language is Cantonese, generally used more in the Southern regions and in Hong Kong. There are many (hundreds) other dialects used throughout other parts of China as well.In honor of Christmas, we would like to say "xie xie" for the following:

Xie xie to China for allowing us the privilege of adopting their children.
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Xie xie to CCAA for allowing Bethany, a Christian organization to work in China and find homes for their children.
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Xie xie to Bethany's adoptive families for opening their hearts and homes to orphaned children. >
Xie xie to the caretakers of the world.
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Xie xie to the brave and selfless birth-parents that choose life for their child and oftentimes feel forced to abandon their children.
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Xie xie to those who find the abandoned Chinese children and place them in the arms of caregivers.
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Xie xie to the Bethany staff and social workers across the country that all share the same Mission to find families for orphans.
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Xie xie to the educators who help prepare adoptive families.
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Xie xie to the medical professionals that care for the children.
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Xie xie to the prayer warriors that never forget to pray for the forgotten.
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Xie xie to the communities that embrace diversity.

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Xie xie to those who share their hearts with fellow adoptive parents and support the same through the long waiting process, regardless of their preferences.
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Xie xie to those who founded adoption.
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Xie xie to those who fought for our freedoms.
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Xie xie to those who made it possible for us to pray at work and at home, as this is a freedom that many do not have.
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Xie xie to the children who resiliently adapt and embrace their adoptive families as their own.
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Xie xie to our Gracious God who Created all to be thankful for.

From the Heart

Plan Ahead